On average, two women every week are murdered in domestic violence homicides in England and Wales. Domestic violence will affect 1 in 4 women in the UK at some point in their life. It is a deadly serious and widespread problem. The media has a significant role to play in changing public attitude to men’s violence against women and children.
Headlines like this are part of the problem, not part of the solution.
Intimate partner violence has nothing to do with romance or rejection. It’s a choice made by the perpetrator based on their need for power and control, and the underlying belief that anything they do to maintain control over a woman they see as a possession is justified and excused by her actions.
When journalists make implicit excuses for violent men by blaming victims they are confirming those beliefs. They are colluding with violent men in excusing their violence and blaming their victims.
Andrei Pavel is not a “spurned lover”, he’s a violent man who chose to stalk and assault his ex-girlfriend. He was convicted of assault and ordered to stay away from his victim for 12 months.
He didn’t punch her because she rejected him, he punched her because he decided he had the right to assault a woman who refused to do what he wanted her to do.
Nothing a victim does is the cause of violence committed against them, there is only one thing that causes violence and that is the choice to do it.
Reporting this any other way is not journalism, it’s a dangerous deception.
This article was written by Jane Gilmore and was copied from here.