Love-bombing is the practice of overwhelming someone with signs of adoration and attraction. Wow, sounds wonderful, doesn't it. I mean, who wouldn't want to be love-bombed? Who doesn't want to be showered with love and affection? Who doesn't want to be adored and desired?
But the truth is that love-bombing isn't about love and affection or about being adored and desired, it's about being secretly manipulated and controlled.
And here’s the problem: because not every romantic is a narcissist or a potential manipulator or a potentially abusive partner, it can be really difficult to recognise that you're being love-bombed rather than loved.
What constitutes love bombing?
Love-bombs are actions such as flattery, compliments, romance or promises of the future designed to gain your love and trust. Once that trust is established, the love-bomber is in a position to manipulate and control you. You are no longer in a mutually respectful relationship, because the love-bomber has power over you.
Being loved is wonderful; being love-bombed is a red flag - watch out for it.
But the truth is that love-bombing isn't about love and affection or about being adored and desired, it's about being secretly manipulated and controlled.
And here’s the problem: because not every romantic is a narcissist or a potential manipulator or a potentially abusive partner, it can be really difficult to recognise that you're being love-bombed rather than loved.
What constitutes love bombing?
Love-bombs are actions such as flattery, compliments, romance or promises of the future designed to gain your love and trust. Once that trust is established, the love-bomber is in a position to manipulate and control you. You are no longer in a mutually respectful relationship, because the love-bomber has power over you.
Being loved is wonderful; being love-bombed is a red flag - watch out for it.