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6 Reasons to Fear Leaving a Narcissist

26/6/2016

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There are significant reasons one should fear leaving a narcissist.

A narcissist can escalate when an individual decides to leave or divorce them.

They can become outraged, enraged, indignant, irrational and more. Many of the same qualities of the average separating individual; however, the narcissist never balances their emotions and finds healing. They truly believe that the other person has permanently done them wrong.

This is a frightening phenomenon and why narcissism is labeled a personality disorder.
Narcissists lack empathy, a developmental stage you learn in childhood.

They do not have the ability to feel other people’s pain.

They live in their own perception of reality. They live in their own world.

They feel their own pain intensely. In fact, so strongly that they are arrogant and indignant and unforgiving if they believe they have been crossed.

​They are difficult to leave because they are not seeking resolution or divorce. They are seeking retribution.

1. They have zero empathy.  A narcissist lacks empathy and does not feel other people’s pain so they will endanger the spouse and children they are leaving. They will feel no need to provide money to feed their family, have health insurance for their family or worry about their family.

2. They are punishers. A narcissist will punish the person who they are divorcing. They will lower their income, quit their jobs or declare bankruptcy and make divorce a ridiculously elongated process just so that they can win.

3. They are controllers. A narcissist will control a spouse throughout the divorce. They will keep bringing their spouse back to court, they will keep fighting over property and money.

4. They are bullies. They will go after a spouse again and again, in a game of cat and mouse. Sadly, the bully will not be easily shut down as their immediate family is equally as narcissistic and their friends will be oblivious in some ways because they only see the charming bully not the true bully.

5. They will use their own children. A narcissist will use and confuse their own children. They will use their own children if it means they can manipulate the outcome that they want.

6. They live in a false perception of reality. Worse they actually believe their perception of reality. A narcissist will be abusive. They will stoop to whatever means possible to justify their perception of reality.

A narcissist is a damaged individual. They are so broken that they will attempt to break the person that they are leaving to make themselves feel grandiose. Like all master bully’s they domineer in an abusive manner.

One of the most frightening aspects of the narcissist is that they walk amongst society not always detectable. They are typically attractive, charming and successful people. Yet, they are anything but that.

They are complicated. They are insecure.

There are some theories that narcissists are anything, but insecure with their over-exaggerated sense of ego; however, common sense dictates otherwise. Confident people don’t behave this way.

Do not fear the narcissist. Though you will when you initially try to break away from them.

Do not fear the bully.
The bully is not and never has been strong. The person who defies the bully is strong.

from http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/howgreatthoupart/2016/06/5-reasons-fear-leaving-narcissist.html#0C4fUFwICM0br8rQ.99


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