Cases of domestic violence are increasing by the day, and numerous individuals are enduring silently. Mostly, domestic violence perpetrators use technology as an instrument of control and abuse, both on the web and offline. Although you might not have command over the activities of your abuser, finding out about how innovation can be utilized against you can enable you to assume responsibility for your security and wellbeing.
Having said that, before you keep reading this post, it's prudent to access this content from a gadget that your abuser has no physical or remote access to. On the other hand, you can utilize your browser’s incognito window to browse secretly. Here are some domestic violence digital tips to help you maintain a strategic distance from tech-based domestic violence:
Secure Gadgets in your Home
Each and every networked gadget in your home, particularly those that come with surveillance features like cameras, motion sensors or mouthpieces can be abused. These gadgets present security dangers and make it easy for domestic violence culprits to utilize them to hurt you. Continuously avoid such gadgets if you can't deactivate these surveillance features. You can likewise contract a tech expert to sweep your gadgets, including your vehicle, for bugs or GPS trackers. However, be cautious when doing that as your abuser could be checking your activities. In the event that you can't trust your vehicle, it's a smart thought to hitch a ride with another person or take a taxi, train, or bus.
There's no foolproof approach to know whether somebody is utilizing your gadgets against you or that they've messed with your cell phone or PC. In any case, if you doubt that somebody has altered your gadgets, search for missing screws, free parts, and scratches in uncommon areas. Ensure that you set up your phone yourself to guarantee that isn't 'secure.' Stalkers can root your gadget by introducing spyware or monitoring applications, giving the abuser access to your location consistently.
Reset Your Phone
Cell phones have a reset feature that enables you to restore factory settings. Utilize this feature to restore your device to factory settings if you suspect that somebody has introduced a spyware or surveillance applications on your gadget. Resetting your cell phone reestablishes it to a sensible condition of trustworthiness. From here, you can introduce antivirus and antispyware programs to safeguard your gadget from hacking.
Set Up a Strong Password
Something you ought to do after you've reset your phone is set up a solid password to avert unapproved access. Ensure that the password is difficult to figure out — at least six digits — and set up on-gadget encryption. Abstain from utilizing less secure validation strategies, for example, face recognition as stalkers can undoubtedly get around these and access your gadget without your consent. For online records, for example, email, banking, and social media accounts ensure that you've initiated two-factor authentication.
Be Careful with Social Media Sites and Apps
You also need to exercise caution when accessing social media accounts and applications to ensure that they are not utilized against you. Social media sites and applications are extremely useful assets for digital stalkers. In the event that an application is associated with the gadget's GPS, you might be, without your insight, labeling your area when you share posts.
Secure Important Information
Abusers will utilize any accessible way to make their victim’s lives troublesome and maintain authority over their lives. This incorporates taking sensitive documents and records, for example, travel papers, visas, credit cards, medical covers, birth certificates, marriage certificates, and so on. We need these reports to work, drive, and travel out of the nation, in addition to other things. Without them, life can turn out to be frustrating. Make duplicates of these records and transfer them to the cloud. Cloud-based applications like Dropbox can help you store and access significant documents remotely.
Ideally, these tips can help you to transform technology into an integral asset for wellbeing, security, and freedom. Constantly secure your devices, establish whether you can trust your gadgets like cell phone, PC, vehicle, and other networked devices, back up your information, and build up a secure correspondence with your loved ones. Furthermore, attempt to deal with your finances for added assurance and security.
Read the full article here especially if you own or use a smartphone.
With a few seconds of physical access to a phone, even apps as common as Google Maps and Apple's Find My Friends can be tweaked to persistently share a user's location with another contact while offering the phone's owner no notification or warning, the researchers told me. "It's not the presence of some app on your device that’s disconcerting, it's that it might be configured in some way that you weren’t aware of and didn’t agree to," said Sam Havron, another Cornell researcher.
Psychiatrist Dr Karen Williams, has written a powerful open letter to Joe Hildebrand. Why? Hildebran thoughtlessly and ignorantly responded to Assistant Police Commissioner Luke Cornelius's statement that 'Violence against women is absolutely about men’s behaviour' with 'I thought it was a really nonsensical thing to say. I don’t see how me reflecting on myself is going to stop women being bashed or murdered.' Really? Why do so many media personalities fail to understand the basic difference between an entrenched societal 'norm' and their own 'good' selves?
Read Dr Williams' open letter here.
Domestic and Family Violence has, until relatively recently, rarely been seen as a public problem. But attitudes are, now, finally changing. The statistics, though, continue to paint an extremely grim picture: DFV results in at least one woman a week and — on average — one child every fortnight and one man each month.
Read Sherele Moody's article here
Love-bombing is the practice of overwhelming someone with signs of adoration and attraction. Wow, sounds wonderful, doesn't it. I mean, who wouldn't want to be love-bombed? Who doesn't want to be showered with love and affection? Who doesn't want to be adored and desired?
But the truth is that love-bombing isn't about love and affection or about being adored and desired, it's about being secretly manipulated and controlled.
And here’s the problem: because not every romantic is a narcissist or a potential manipulator or a potentially abusive partner, it can be really difficult to recognise that you're being love-bombed rather than loved.
What constitutes love bombing?
Love-bombs are actions such as flattery, compliments, romance or promises of the future designed to gain your love and trust. Once that trust is established, the love-bomber is in a position to manipulate and control you. You are no longer in a mutually respectful relationship, because the love-bomber has power over you.
Being loved is wonderful; being love-bombed is a red flag - watch out for it.
Domestic, Family and Relationship Abuse is unlike any other crime because:
1. it does NOT happen in a vacuum
2. it does NOT happen because someone is in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Our homes and families are supposed to be our sacred territories, havens in an often heartless world. This is part of what makes Domestic, Family and Relationship Abuse so untenable, so unacceptable.
Domestic, Family and Relationship Abuse is abuse from someone you know, from someone you trust, from someone who claims to love you.
Domestic, Family and Relationship Abuse is often hidden from even our closest confidantes and, very often, the physical violence is far less damaging than the emotional and verbal violence.
So why am I so against the proposition that victims and perpetrators of Domestic, Family and Relationship Abuse attend Relationship Counselling sessions?
1. Relationship Counselling won't and can't stop Domestic, Family and Relationship Abuse
2. Relationship Counselling is not a Perpetrator Behaviour Change Program
3. Relationship Counselling will make victims feel they have to change their behaviour in order to stop "triggering" their violent partners - and haven't they already been doing that?
Victims of Domestic, Family or Relationship Abuse don't need Relationship Counselling; they need strong safety nets to help them to live lives free from fear. They/We need our governments, regardless of colour or stripes, to respect and heed current research, to listen to the experience of those with lived experience, and to put a LOT more money into frontline services that do both of those things.
Most victims of Domestic and Family Abuse try to leave their perpetrators many times. The fact of the matter is, the offender usually doesn't let them go - physically or emotionally - and that is VERY different to choosing to stay.
Read the full story here.
By encouraging women to stay in the home, our government is exposing them to even higher risks than 'before’. We don’t ask victims of 'coward punches' to hear the other guy’s story. Victims of Domestic and Family Abuse don’t need counselling: they need help to start over and law enforcement policies and personnel who take abuse seriously.
This is an important story - read it here.
A senior domestic violence worker has called for an end to “court ordered” violence against children saying children’s voices must be heard because some children in known family violent families are being failed.
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The media portrays a dangerous outside world for women and children, full of perilous dark alleyways and malevolent strangers. However, true danger for women and children is at home, at the hands of their husbands and fathers. 50pc of murdered women are killed by a partner or ex-partner as opposed to only 3pc for men. Men do not randomly kill the women closest to them, these women are targeted because they are perceived as male possessions.
Read the full article here
Netflix's YOU inadvertently highlights a slew of different warning signs of dating abuse and violence. Young women aged 16-24 experience the highest likelihood of intimate partner violence. In just Series 1 alone of YOU the following red flags and abusive tactics are demonstrated by the key character, Joe:
Please note that YOU can be triggering.
Ring 000 if you or someone you know is in danger.
Ring 1800RESPECT for support.
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More than 116,000 Australians are homeless on any given night. Domestic and Family Violence is the main reason people cite for being homeless.
We urgently need more support and resources and safe places for those fleeing extreme violence at home.
Warning, this video is triggering.
The South Australian Government will open 40 new domestic and family violence crisis beds over the next 12 months including a small number of beds for perpetrators to use while removed from their home. Human Services Minister Michelle Lensink hopes the move will mean victims are able to stay in their communities and support networks. The trial will allow authorities to explore what interventions might work to change perpetrators' behaviour.
Read the full story here.
The Outer Sanctum crew discuss the threats of violence and mysogynist behaviour of AFL-connected David Rhys-Jones and Craig Liney towards women.
World renowned Criminal Behavioural Analyst calls for urgent law reform following the Ristevski sentence
What DROVE him to kill his wife? Really? It's the victim's fault? Victim blaming - either overtly or covertly - has to stop!!!
It's worth revisiting Our Watch's video first published a month ago at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayUlQQr2qOg&feature=youtu.be
The University of Newcastle has launched a $5000 Scholarship in memory of Helen Maslen, a domestic violence survivor and died in 2018. The Scholarship aims to empower survivors to achieve their educational ambitions and independence.
The UON received "harrowing" applications from 32 women and 2 men most of whom were aged between 18 and 34. The applicants spoke of physical assaults, financial abuse, stalking, intimidation, harassment, threats to kill and constant fear. Many spoke of trying to leave and returning due to emotional blackmail, low self esteem or nowhere to go. Many talked about homelessness, living in refuges or government housing. Others spoke about severe effects on their mental health and seeking help for depression and PTSD and through trauma counselling.
Read more here.
There has been a huge public outcry at the perceived weak sentencing of Borce Ristevski for the death of his wife, Karen.
That the Department of Public Prosecution has only just now opened the door for a review of this sentence because of "public outrage", rather than because the sentence handed down appears to be grossly inadequate, speaks volumes.
We already have mandatory minimum penalty of imprisonment with a non-parole period of 10 years for "one punch" deaths [as we should].
A Monash University Department of Forensic Medicine review of 'king hit' fatalities in Australia from 2000 to 2012 identified 90 incidents. Last year alone, 79 Australian women were killed, most by family members.
We support the "one punch" mandatory sentencing and believe that family violence deaths [a far more frequent occurrence] also deserve mandatory sentencing.
Do you agree or not? And if not, why not? We're interested in your opinion.
Earlier this year, Dr Karen Williams, a psychiatrist from the Wollongong, started the group called Doctors Against Violence Towards Women. Dr Williams specialises in trauma care and sees huge numbers of women who have experienced violence or other forms of abuse and is acutely aware of the gaps we have in the prevention, medical and legal support for these women as well as the longer-term consequences of intimate partner violence.
Read more here.
A bold advert from Respect Victoria is condemning the behaviour of men making women feel uncomfortable in public spaces as sexual harassment and encouraging Australians to act if they witness it.
See the video below.
Read the full article here.
Domestic and family violence is one of the main reasons women and children become homeless in Australia. More than 121,000 people experiencing domestic violence sought help from specialist homelessness services in 2017-18. Over three out of four people seeking specialist homelessness services due to domestic and family violence related issues were female.
Mission Australia’s latest report Out of the shadows: Domestic and family violence, a leading cause of homelessness in Australia released today calls for urgent action to improve responses to domestic and family violence to prevent people being pushed into homelessness.
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Despite being titled ‘Specialised Family Violence Services’, there is no requirement that organisations have specialist expertise in providing domestic and family violence responses, while specialist women’s domestic and family violence organisations are precluded from applying for the invitation-only grant. However, couples counselling and mediation from faith-based mainstream organisations are among its eligible services.
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