The first question, and often the only question, many people ask is, 'Why doesn’t she just leave?'
People who have not been abused by their partner often say that if their partner ever abused them they would leave.
'It'd only take one time and I'd be outta there!'
Easier said than done.
The problem with the question, 'Why doesn't she just leave?' is that it is not a real question at all.
The question doesn't really call for an answer.
Rather, the question makes a judgement and transforms an immense social problem into a personal transaction.
It also pins responsibility squarely onto the victim obliterating the magnitude of violence against women.
The question suggests two ideas, both of which are false:
It‘s extremely difficult to leave a violent and controlling relationship.
Women often leave and return to a violent and controlling relationship several times before they permanently leave.
There are many reasons for this including: