Three big NO-NOs
1. Do NOT blame your friend for the abuse or ask judgemental questions
like 'What did you do to make him/her treat you like that?'
or 'Why don't you just break up with him/her?'
2. Do NOT focus on trying to work out the abuser's reasons for the abuse
Concentrate on supporting your friend and on what they can do to protect themselves and their children.
3. Do NOT to be impatient or critical of your friend
if your friend is confused about what to do, or if s/he says that s/he still loves her partner. Remember, it's usually difficult for anyone to break up a relationship - even if they are being abused.