Do NOT blame her for the abuse or ask judgemental questions
like 'What did you do to make him treat you like that?' or 'Why don't you just break up with him?'
Do NOT focus on trying to work out the abuser's reasons for the abuse
Concentrate on supporting her and on what she can do to protect herself and her children.
Do NOT to be impatient or critical of her
if your friend is confused about what to do, or if she says that she still loves her partner. Remember, it's usually difficult for anyone to break up a relationship - even if they are being abused.