Domestic Violence is caused by alcohol or drug use.
Drugs and alcohol are involved in about 50% of cases of reported Relationship Violence cases. The remaining 50% of Relationship Violence cases are perpetrated by sober and 'clean' abusers. While drugs and alcohol are risk factors and certainly contribute to greater frequency and severity of abuse, they are not the cause of the violence.
Domestic and Family Violence only happens in certain cultures or communities.
Violence against women occurs in ALL communities regardless of cultural, education or socio-economic background. Some cultural groups, though, do get more media exposure than others and some communities have higher rates of Relationship Abuse.
Violent men are violent in their relationships because they are stressed.
Like alcohol, drugs, unemployment or low educational levels, stress is often used as an excuse for Relationship Violence. Nothing, though, excuses or justifies violence against women and children: against anyone. Most people who are stressed are not violent.
It’s easy to leave a violent and controlling relationship.
It‘s actually extremely difficult, and dangerous, to leave a violent and controlling relationship. Women often leave their abusive partners many times before they can make that break permanently.
If a woman doesn't like it, she can leave. Leaving a violent partner means the abuse will stop.
Women often believe it’s impossible to escape the violence and abuse. They are often threatened with death if they leave. Harassment and intimidation often escalates following separation and can result in serious injury and, sometimes, death.
Some religions support Domestic and Family Abuse.
Abusers sometimes use their religion as an excuse for their abuse. Religion is no excuse for Relationship Violence. The use of scripture to justify Family Abuse is unacceptable and unsupportable. Some women feel pressure to ‘honour’ their commitment to marriage and stay in the abusive relationship believing that leaving their marriage or getting a divorce is against their religious beliefs.
Violent men come from violent homes.
The relationship between exposure to violence in childhood and becoming an adult perpetrator is complex: many factors contribute to someone becoming a person who uses violence in their relationship. While it is true that some men who are violent to women do come from violent backgrounds, many men who abuse women do not. Conversely, many men with abusive backgrounds do not abuse women.
All men are violent.
Most men are not violent. The use of violence is a choice. Men who use violence in their relationships choose where and when they are violent. There is no excuse for violence: ever!
There are as many male victims of Relationship Violence as there are women.
Violence against men is also a major issue in Australian society. Most violence against men, though, is perpetrated by an acquaintance or stranger, usually another man, rather than by a male or female intimate partner.
Women don't tell the truth about Relationship Violence.
False claims about Relationship Violence are extremely rare. 80% of women who experience current partner violence don’t contact the police about the violence. 80% of women do not report sexual assault to police.
Perpetrators of Relationship Violence have a mental illness.
Most people with a mental illness are not violent. However, those who are, are not selective about who they abuse, when or where. Mental illness is used as an excuse: it is not the cause of Domestic Violence.
Women provoke men to be violent by nagging and other annoying behaviours.
Most abused women do anything and everything in their power to please their partner to avoid further violent episodes. Victims of Domestic Violence are vulnerable to further episodes of abuse regardless of their behaviour.
Relationship Violence is not a widespread problem: it's all media hype driven by feminazis.
Relationship Violence is almost always perpetrated in 'secret' - at home and in private. A Royal Brisbane Hospital report revealed that more than 1 in 8 women presenting at the Emergency Department had been subjected to Domestic Violence.
Children aren’t really affected by Relationship Violence between their parents.
Seeing violent behaviour perpetrated by one parent towards another and growing up in an unpredictable, fear-filled environment usually has significant detrimental impacts on children. Studies have shown that children exposed to Relationship Violence are at greater risk of developing depression and experiencing behavioural issues. Under Victorian law, if someone is abusive towards their partner or spouse in front of or within the hearing of a child, they can be charged with child abuse.
There's nothing wrong with a sexist joke.
The most consistent predictor for support of violence by men is their agreement with sexist attitudes. Sexist jokes reflect and reinforce sexist attitudes excusing and perpetuating the gender stereotyping and discrimination against women that underpins violence.
Read the National Community Attitudes Survey, 2018 here
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